is what’s called a “media poor” communication medium. “Media richness” refers to how much information, the accuracy of said information, and detail, can be communicated in real time.Ĭommunication media where you cannot see the other person, and cannot hear their voice, voice intonations, etc. The “sarcasm” is conveyed over a “media rich” communication medium. You know the person you’re taking to extremely well, and have a grasp on how they talk in general.Ģ. The only time sarcasm works as intended if ONLY if:ġ. You might sound like less of an idiot if you do. This is basic, rudimentary Internet 101 here people, so I suggest you become intimate with it. One “rule of the internet”, that many people seem to be unaware of, as they break it on a regular basis: Sarcasm doesn’t work on the internet. Interesting opinion, but there are a few more reasons that should be added to this list, that aren’t covered in the original article. Is sarcasm ever ok? How about teasing? Some lighthearted teasing can be ok, but for the most part we should encourage genuine interaction in our communication and try to get to the heart of the person we are speaking with-what do you think they are trying to cover-up with their sarcasm?ĭavid Dunning, Self-Insight: Road Blocks and Detours on the Path to Knowing Thyself: (Kruger, Gordon, Kuban). Do you think people in the audience didn’t know it was me? Should I email the make-up artists about it?”Īt this she became flustered and said something along the lines of, “Well it’s not that I couldn’t recognize you, I mean it was, well, oh never mind.” I continued to do this throughout the night and eventually she started to have real conversation with us and make genuine comments-which we received warmly and with encouragement. Me: “Oh wow really? That’s not good at all. Her: “Yeah I could barely recognize you with all of that make-up on.” Her: “Hey I saw you on CNN the other day.” This is when you take everything they say as a genuine comment without the sarcastic tone.įor example, I was recently with a friend of a friend who constantly makes sarcastic comments-preventing genuine conversation. If that is a little too direct, next time you are with the teaser, take what I call, the “Genuine Approach”. What can you do if you have someone sarcastic in your life? First, you can try sending them this article or posting it on Facebook and see if they get the hint. Sarcasm is not only hurtful, it is also the least genuine mode of communication. Unfortunately it tends to have the opposite effect-teasees tend to rate sarcastic incidents as malicious and annoying.Įxample: (Man at networking event) “This buffet spread looks great, guess it mirrors this company’s portfolio, huh?” This is another kind of insecurity, but you will often hear loners at parties or networking events use sarcasm as an attempt to lighten the mood or bond.
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When people are not good at reading those around them, or are not sure how to carry on a conversation they will often employ sarcasm hoping it sounds playful or affectionate. ↑ Table of Contents ↑ 3) Social Awkwardness Sarcasm Example: (Wife to Husband after husband forgot to take out the trash) “Gosh! I love when our house looks and smells so clean.” For someone who is angry or upset, but is too afraid to bring it up will often use sarcasm as a disguised barb. Sarcasm can also be passive aggressive or as a way to assert dominance. Sarcasm Example: (Mother to Son who wants him to shave before visiting Grandma) “Wow Grandma always did love that mountain man look.” For some, using sarcasm or teasing is a way of avoiding confrontation because they are afraid of asking for what they want. Whenever someone around me adopts a sarcastic tone I immediately try to gauge what they are feeling insecure about. Sarcasm happens for three reasons: 1) Insecurity
So, why do people adopt sarcasm in the first place? I believe sarcasm is a simply a way of covering contempt or hate. In fact, a recent study shows that teasers usually believe their words are less hurtful than their victim thinks. However, new research says that sarcasm is merely thinly veiled meanness. They love to ‘tease’ and think sarcasm is well-meaning. (Talking about someone who actually annoys you.)Įveryone has someone in their life-possibly a boss, colleague, friend or parent who loves sarcastic, passive aggressive, barbed modes of communication. Just great! (When someone runs into you).
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